Dan Rox - Our Wedding
We were married via a handfasting ceremony at Holne Park House on 2nd April 2016.
The stunning venue is nestled on the southern slopes of Dartmoor National Park, set within the 90 acres of grounds and gardens of the River Dart Country Park estate.
After meeting online in November 2013 and building a solid friendship, we finally met face-to-face on 4th January 2014, on the platform of Truro train station.
Amidst the bellowing noise and frantic scurry of commuters, it was clear from the outset that something very special was blossoming.
The train station still holds a unique place in both of our hearts and was the setting of Adam’s proposal on our six-month anniversary, in the pouring rain.
We both grew up in the Midlands and moved to the South West, albeit at different times in their lives.
If you think about it, we could have met as children or young adults if we’d both remained the Midlands.
Before the ceremony took place, the room was filled with enchanting music, including a mixture of Celtic music from the likes of Enya, the Corrs and Clannad - providing the perfect atmosphere for the spiritual ceremony to come.
The rhythmic beat of Bodhran drums played as we walked down the aisle to begin our union. The main ceremony included a Pagan handfasting, complete with binding cords, vows and ‘jumping the broom’ – an old marriage tradition that symbolises entering a new stage of a relationship, as well as sweeping out old energies and clearing away negativity.
Our ceremony room was full of crystals, floral bunting and floral chair covers.
The centre circle was created using stunning Amethyst and Sodalite – the purple and blue representing the colour theme of their wedding.
We chose to have a wishing tree instead of flowers with guests pinning their well-wishes and votive offerings.
Words from the ceremony;
When you love someone, you do not love them all the time in exactly the same way, from moment to moment. It is an impossibility. It is even a lie to pretend to. And yet this is exactly what most of us demand. We have so little faith in the ebb and flow of life, of love and of relationships. We leap at the flow of the tide and resist in the terror of the ebb. We are afraid it will never return.
We insist on permanency, on duration, on continuity, when the only continuity possible, in life as in love, is in growth, in fluidity, in freedom.
The only real security is not in owning or possessing, not in demanding or expecting, not in hoping, even. Security in a relationship lies neither in looking back to what was in nostalgia, not forward to what it might be in dread or anticipation, but living in the present relationship and accepting it as it is now.
Relationships must be like islands, one must accept them for what they are here and now, within their limits—islands, surrounded and interrupted by the sea, and continually visited and abandoned by the tides of life.
The beautiful and rolling grounds surrounding Holne Park House provided the perfect backdrop for our special and intimate day and we explored several romantic spots to take photographs and create everlasting memories.
Many of our spiritual friends attended our wedding, and they embraced the chance to meditate within the grounds and commune with Mother Earth and the trees.